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I should have known something was up when she started to yawn and mention how tired she was. This sounded a little strange coming from a kid that hates to be labeled as “tired” more than anything. Nevertheless, she got ready for bed and went through her normal ritual. First, she plugged in her iTouch to speakers so she can listen to music until she falls asleep. Then she arranged her stuffed animals in the bed, put on her slumber mask (I know…lol) and it was lights out. She asked me to close the door, which was another red flag in retrospect (although she has asked to have the door closed on a few other occasions–but this was the first time she asked at bedtime).
About 30 minutes later, I mentioned to my husband how she must have had a busy day since she was so tired as I went to check on her. I knew it was trouble when I opened the door and saw that the covers were in a weird shape. I pull the covers back and what did I see? She was watching a video on her iTouch! I was so shocked, all I could say was, “Journey…I’m so disappointed!” She started sobbing uncontrollably. All she kept saying was, “I can’t resist it, I can’t resist watching Disney Channel!” (Is she kidding me?!) I took the iTouch to see what video she was watching…Austin & Ally…a Disney Channel show! Apparently, the talk we had about no longer watching Disney Channel programs (read more about this) did not go as well as I thought…
I told her to just go to bed and we would discuss it in the morning. As soon as she woke up, she wanted to talk about it. I told her we would discuss it when she got home from school. She replied, “I want to get it over with. I don’t want it on my brain all day.” “Oh, but that is part of the punishment”, I thought to myself. She followed with, “I didn’t mean to dishonor you.” Um…okay…dishonor…wow! I think she meant to say disobey. But then again, it wouldn’t surprise me if she meant just what she said.
When I picked her up from school, the first thing she said was, “Can we talk about it now?” “We will talk when we get home,” I said. “But it’s been on my brain aaallll daaayyy!”
I gave her a snack and while she was eating, we finally discussed the incident. She started by saying how sorry she was and that she did not mean to dishonor me. (So, I guess she did mean to say dishonor.) She went on to say that she knows she’s not supposed to watch the channel, but she just couldn’t resist. First, I told her that she is in charge of what decisions she makes and has to do a better job of thinking before she acts. Then I explained to her that when she lies, she not only dishonors me (hey, I figured I may as well use it), she dishonors herself as well. I told her that if she is going to be a liar, then I wouldn’t be able to trust her. And that there will be a lot of things that she won’t be able to do if I can’t trust her. I also told her how important it is to always tell the truth, keep your word, and live with integrity. “What’s integrity?” she asked. “It’s when you live a life that is honest and that you can be proud of. Are you proud of yourself?” I asked. “No,” she said as she started to cry. By this point, I’m getting teary-eyed. “Remember, as long as you always tell me the truth, we can always work it out—no matter what, okay?” “Okay.”
Hopefully, this conversation sticks better than our last one. She had the rest of the week to let it sink it since she lost her TV time, iTouch and favorite snack as her punishment. We shall see…
How do you handle it when your kid lies?
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